It has been a MINUTE since I have written anything. Did y'all miss me?
To be honest, I haven't been inspired to write. I have been reading a lot more and often that spurs a bunch of new ideas for content, but not so this time.
I have been thinking and I feel like I am in a season of busyness. I can't seem to catch my breath. It seems like every single second of every single day is spoken for. And friends, I don't like it.
As I write this post, it has dawned on me I need to be honest with you. (This is a transparent moment.) I really like making myself feel busy. GAH! Did I just say that? I did.
You see for me being "busy" signifies I am leading a full life and if you want to be a part of it, you better get in where you fit in. However, when I REALLY think about it, I am not living a full life. Instead, I am packing it full of mundane things and calling it busy. I mean who isn't busy? We are all busy, but sadly I think we have trained ourselves to think if we are busy then we are living.
This my lovelies is the FARTHEST thing from the truth.
If we are busy, it's because we want to be.
You see, you are busy by choice. Every single thing you do outside of your work obligations is a choice. How you spend your time is based on what you want to do.
Don't get me wrong, there are times when my schedule is FULL and there really isn't a way around it and that frustrates me, BUT it also somehow invigorates me because I get to show people on social media how I, me, Brinn is living HER BEST LIFE and YOU can too- even if you have three kids, a husband, a career, a blog, and a side hustle. I almost sound like an informercial. You too can have ALL OF THIS for the low price of $129.95 PLUS shipping and handling. I digressed.
Being busy has become a status symbol for our generation and I am here to tell you it's not the one you want. Not even a little bit. It's almost become our mantra. If you aren't a boss babe, slaying, praying, making money moves, then you aren't living. Writing that out exhausted me. PHEW! (Steps away from the computer for a second.)
I don't know about you, but I don't always want a "to-do" list lingering over my head. I would rather have a bucket list because to scratch those things off the list means you ARE living your best life.
*Thinks to self I need to revisit my bucket list.*
Recently, I have taken some steps to help me overcome the need to wear the badge of busyness.
I stopped over scheduling my children's lives. Children don't ask us to schedule anything for them, yet some of us feel the need to put our children in 12 sports. All at the same time. Nope. My children get to do two activities and that's it. If they don't show interest, we move on to the next. I believe in exposing kids to a lot so they can have a better understanding of the world around them and so they can learn about what interests them, but I will be damned if I make their life my life. Nope. Not interested.
Also, I started using the word no more often. I am QUEEN of double even triple scheduling myself. I feel bad if I don't attend things because when people invite you places, you go. BUT I have learned, the event will go on with or without me. Go figure.
I am not bashing people who are busy and like to be, but it's not my thing and I am untethering myself as I write.
Today, ask yourself do you want to be busy or do you want to do more living? I want to do more living.
Until next time, my lovelies.
My couch is calling me. "Coming, bae."